The Joy of Making Something You Love (S17E5)
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The Joy of Making Something You Love (S17E5)

Tap to send me your reflections ♡ This is a full-hearted, creative, slightly giddy episode - recorded just after I finished the first piece for A Piece of Quiet, my new private, subscription-only podcast. There’s so much newness stirring right now. The LoveWords cards are out in the world, my year-long group coaching programme is quietly filling behind the scenes, and now my new weekly pause - in audio form - for reflection, stillness and self-connection, is almost ready to enter the world. I...
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Speaker 1: Hello, my darlings,
I'm feeling a little bit giddy

right now.

I have just recorded the first
I suppose we could call it a

trailer episode for the new
offering that I'm sending out

into the world.

It's going to be well.

I'm going to start really
talking about it next week, on

the 10th, which is a full moon.

It feels like a really
beautiful time to be shining a

light on something new.

Welcome to the Henny Flynn
podcast, the space for deepening

self-awareness with profound
self-compassion.

I'm Henny, I write, coach and
speak about how exploring our

inner world can transform how we
experience our outer world, all

founded on a bedrock of
self-love.

Settle in and listen and see
where the episode takes you and,

um, yeah, I you might have.

If you've been listening to the
uh podcast for the last few

months, actually, you'll hear
that I've been kind of birthing

these new ideas and um, and then
seeking to sort of exit my

chrysalis and then realising
that I had to go back into the

goo and all of that.

So all of that has passed,
which I'm really, really pleased

to say, and the three things
that I was well, that were

forming within me, are all now
almost all out in the world.

So the love words, um, which
you might have heard me talk

about in the last episode.

Um, they are now um being
ordered and some are about to

wend their way to their new
owners.

That is deeply exciting and I'm
so grateful to everyone who's

already sent me an order for
them.

It's really, really marvellous.

If you're curious and you
haven't heard the last episode,

love Words are a basically
modern oracle.

Cards are very simple
deceptively simple, I would say

and they really are an
opportunity just to use these

words to help tap into your own
intuition, your own inner wisdom

.

So if you have a challenge or a
problem or you just want a

little bit of extra guidance on
something, you choose a word and

you see what it says to you,
because each word can be

interpreted in many, many ways,
and one of the things that I've

been really enjoying is
listening to how Sorry that's

Ronnie in the background,
listening to how some people

come up Did you hear that it's
Ronnie trying to talk on the

podcast now?

Yes, how sometimes people will
come up with an interpretation

of a word that hadn't occurred
to me at all when I was creating

them, so it's like they now
have a life of their own.

I created the love words
doesn't mean I know all of the

meaning that is held within them
, because the meaning is

actually held within you.

So that's really exciting.

And then the other thing that I
have been birthing has been a

year-long group coaching program
.

I haven't really started
sharing that much about it, I've

only sent it out to people
who've already flagged an

interest.

If you think you might be
interested, then please do email

me.

It's a small group, maximum of
10 people, and we begin in

October.

Maximum of 10 people and we
begin in October.

So if that's something that
you'd like to find out more

about, year-long group coaching
beautiful experience, a really

wonderful opportunity to, to you
know, do some of this deep

coaching work which is
ordinarily only available

one-to-one um, and to do it in
the company of some other

wonderful humans, um, so yeah,
so that feels really exciting

and um, I kind of finalized all
of my thinking around that over

the last few days.

And then the other thing is um,
a piece of quiet, which is this

new um private subscription only
podcast.

So it doesn't change the henny
flim podcast.

That will remain free.

This remains free.

Um ad free, subscription free,
it's.

So a piece of quiet is actually
um, something that um is a

completely new offering and it's
essentially a chance for a

weekly pause and, and like I
said right at the beginning of

this little ramble, um, it's
something that I have just been,

uh, doing a piece of recording
for and, oh gosh, honestly, my

darlings, it's so beautiful.

I, I just can't wait to um, to
get it out into the world, and

one of the things that I've said
on this, uh, this piece I've

just recorded, is this kind of
ripple effect.

You know it's.

I'm already noticing the
benefits of creating and and

beginning to share um, or, you
know, beginning the, the steps

towards sharing.

And, of course, when you create
anything, the minute it goes

out into the world, it stops
being yours, um, it starts

becoming a shared thing, a bit
like I said about the love words

really, you know they're not
mine, they're a shared offering

now and and it's the same, with
a piece of quiet, that um, you

know, the minute it goes out
into the world, that um, the

impact and the energy that it
starts to hold within it and

that starts to ripple out from
it, that becomes a shared thing

and it becomes a co-creation and
that's so beautiful.

And I feel that way about all
of my books about my darling

girl and the heart of change,
and all the ways I tell myself I

love you and in the flow and
letters of love, and you know.

That just feels really
wonderful.

I feel really kind of filled
actually with that creative

energy and I'm there's something
about being able to also enjoy

these kinds of moments too, even
in the face or, yeah, even in

the face of of um such
devastating news as we see

around us.

Um, because I I saw something
really important, actually a

post on I think it's a TEDx or a
TED talk about how vital

creativity is for us as human
beings.

As human beings, it's not about
consumption, it's about

creation, and when we are
creating, we stop needing to

consume in quite such a way.

That was basically her premise,
the speaker's premise, and I I

think that's really interesting.

I need to go and watch the
actual whole TED talk and maybe

it's something that would
inspire another episode.

Um, yeah, I mean, and I think
creativity looks like many, many

, many different things.

You know, it can look like
cooking a beautiful meal.

It or, you know, cooking a meal
.

We don't need to qualify these
things.

Um, if it's, if it feels like
an act of creation.

For us then then it is, um.

It can mean, um, you know, sort
of planting something.

It can mean, um, you know, uh,
you know sort of cutting

somebody's hair.

It can mean, um, you know,
creating something out of clay

or paint or paper, or you know
colored pens or you know

anything.

If we are immersed in it and
we're operating from that deep

place of intuition and instinct,
it's like, oh yeah, this feels

good.

Then for me, that's really
tapping into that creative part

of us and I agree with this TED
speaker that it is absolutely

essential.

I've shared before on a previous
episode, goodness knows when it

was about there's a really
interesting it's not really a

psychometric, but it's a really
interesting tool that can help

us understand our needs and how
satisfied we are that our needs

have been met.

And it's actually I've included
it with permission.

I've included it in my book,
the Heart of Change, because I

just think it's such a useful
exercise, and it's called the

Human Givens.

And in the Human Givens there's
a whole institute devoted to

the Human Givens, to the human
givens.

Um, they, there are nine, um
sort of key, uh traits or needs

that, um, the researchers
identified every human being has

.

And when I first came across
the tool, I thought, oh gosh,

this is so brilliant.

I found it such a simple and,
you know, incredibly deep and

insightful tool and I couldn't
quite understand why creativity

wasn't one of these human givens
, like, for me, it's an absolute

given that creativity is a core
human need.

And so, um, if you do come
along and join the year-long

group coaching program, um,
we'll be using the heart of

change as the, the sort of the
framework really, for you know,

working together, and, and you
will see that in that exercise,

I have included creativity again
with permission, because it's

so, it's so vital, I see.

So, anyway, I suppose this is an
episode about creativity.

I've just realized I didn't
even know what we were going to

talk about, other than I wrote a
poem.

I often write poetry, and for
many years they seem to always

begin my Darling Girl, and
that's what led to those first

two volumes of poetry, the my
Darling Girl books.

But lately that's been
happening less and less and I've

begun or resumed I'm not sure
writing poetry that feels like

it's not necessarily written to
me, but feels like it's written

with me.

Hopefully, that makes sense
Like it's not from me but it's

definitely written with me.

It's like all my parts are
aligned and coming together to

kind of sit and look at the poem
and work out what the words are

and how to express what it is
that's rising within me.

So, yeah, it's written with me.

I haven't had that thought
before.

Anyway, I shared this on
Instagram.

I quite often would just pop
them into my stories.

I think that's a, you know,
it's a way of putting them out

into the world without them
being too front and center and

sitting on my grid, as it's
called, on Instagram, and I've

had so many comments from people
, so many people saying how much

they liked it for want of a
better word and I thought I

would share it here with you.

And yeah, so yes, this whole
episode is about creativity,

isn't it?

Because this is a piece of
creativity that I'd like to

share with you, and I've written
, I wrote on the um, on the

story.

This is an early draft, but I
liked where it was heading and I

haven't changed any of it
because I've decided I like

where it's landed.

I mean, it doesn't mean it
won't change in the future, but,

um, here it is.

It's called when With a question
mark, and it begins when did we

get old, you and I?

When did our hair go grey and
skin begin to wrinkle in places?

Only old people have wrinkled
skin.

When did we stop minding that
we make noises as we stand up

and sit down and move around?

When did comfort become queen
and the thought of those heels I

used to wear obscene?

When did we stop bothering
about what others thought or

forgetting?

We used to think worse things
about ourselves than others

would have ever thought, to
think worse things about

ourselves than others would have
ever thought.

When did we start to accept
ourselves as flawed and fabulous

creatures who will only walk
the earth in this life, at least

for a few long years that at
times can feel so short?

When did carpe diem start to
actually mean something we

finally understood?

Oh, my friend, when did we at
last become the people our

younger selves always hoped we
would?

I've read that so many times
since I posted it.

I think it's really rather good.

I love it when I write something
, when anybody writes something

or creates something, and then
you step back and you look at it

and you go gosh, that's really
rather good.

I much prefer that to the kind
of you know the anguish of oh,

modesty.

Yeah, I'm not talking about
arrogance.

I'm just talking about being
able to enjoy something that

we've created.

You know that's a nice thing,
isn't it?

Anyway, anyway, I think it's
that.

That's it, just that for today.

And if you are in the mailing
list, expect to hear more about

A Piece of Quiet.

And if you are in the mailing
list, if you're already in my

email community, then you'll get
a very special subscription

offer, and so if you would like
to know what that is and you're

not already in the mailing list,
then please do join up.

There's a link in the show
notes for this podcast too, and

it would be utterly gorgeous to
welcome you to a piece of quiet.

I really I can't wait to begin
sharing more with you about it,

and I am sending you a hug and a
wave.

Thank you, thank you.