The Self-Care Bank (S20E8)
This is the first of three episodes diving deeper into resilience. Last week I explored how resilience can look like different things - this week, I'm focusing on one of the three key areas: the Self-Care Bank.
It's a metaphor that's generated so much interest, and today I'm unpacking what it really means - and why what gets labelled as 'lack of resilience' is often actually lack of resources.
You'll hear:
- Why depletion isn't a sign of weak resilience - it's a sign of low reserves
- How self-awareness with self-compassion helps us notice when our bank is running low (before crisis hits)
- The difference between firm boundaries (that we sometimes need) and the reality of the soft, malleable boundaries we often actually live with
- Why rest and pausing are themselves forms of boundary-setting
- How 'staying authentic' is part of keeping your reserves topped up
- The corporate culture that values decisiveness over reflection - and what it costs
- Why borrowing from your future self in crisis is human and necessary (and why we need time to rebuild after)
I also talk about Compassionate Resilience - from my book The Heart of Change - and why that reframe matters.
Next week: a special guest episode with Adam Lind - author of Floating Home - exploring masking as a form of resilience.
Settle in and see where the episode takes you.
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